Many of my 2013 couples are deep in the midst of wedding planning, and with their wedding days approaching in months, they are starting to think about how they can make their ceremony special.
Choosing a reading that's personal to you and your fiancé has become popular. I wouldn't call this a trend but weddings are personal so it's important to select something that has meaning for you both.
Here are some little tips to consider:
- Discuss how personal you want your reading to be - is it a song lyric or poem that tugs on your emotional heart strings? or do you want a reading that speaks of love and marriage?
- Consider who's giving the reading, and give them the reading in advance so they feel comfortable reading in front of all your guests.
- Be mindful of the number of readings you're choosing to have - typically it's 2 or 3 max, anything more than that and it takes away from the rest of your ceremony and vows.
- Look around at various sources, and don't settle for something just because it's popular or common. Be inspired and you'll know when you choose the right one that represents your love.
Looking back when hubby and I were planning our wedding last year, we went through a similar path. Although our ceremony had some religious elements, we had the opportunity to personalize our ceremony by choosing a reading that was meaningful to us. This is the one we chose...
Union - by Robert Fulghum
You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.
The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”
Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.
For after today you shall say to the world –
This is my husband. This is my wife.
Have you chosen your reading or thought about ways to personalize your ceremony?